Building the grit you need to push on

It is April. The flowers are blooming. The rain showers will fall. And it’s spring. But there is something else special about this month. April is the final month my hitters focus on converting their habits to skills.

There are four things I pray rains down on baseball players of all ages and skill levels throughout the world this month:

  1. Discernment
  2. Grit
  3. Focus
  4. Self-efficacy

Grit is the relentless pursuit of purpose. It is a mental skill that can only be developed by doing things that are tough. It is necessary because, as we know, “skills pay the bills.”

So many hitters seemingly had productive winter workouts and came into the spring with high expectations. Some are meeting these goals, while others are struggling to the point of wanting to quit playing baseball altogether.

It is that struggle that helps you develop grit. Since grit is the relentless pursuit of purpose, it is important we have a specific purpose for life in general and baseball specifically.

  • What is your life purpose?
  • What is your reason for playing baseball?

My reason for coaching is to help diamond sport athletes become the best version of themselves.

Before the word coach was used in sports, it was only used as a means of transportation. There was a horse, a coachman to stir the horse, and the coach was the place where passengers rested until they arrived at their destination.

Life is a bumpy ride and grit is the fuel. The let-downs and disappointments in my life are the things that have caused me to develop the grit required for me to move from being an ordinary person to an extraordinary person on a mission for God.

Grit is the thing that moves athletes from just possessing talent, to having strong habits, to being skilled.

Get grit so you don’t quit.

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C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.

 

Do your discernment abilities pass the test?

April is my birth month. I remember as a kid that it would rain a lot in April. Thus the phrase, “April Showers.” For this April, I hope it rains down things on you, including the following:

  1. Discernment
  2. Grit
  3. Focus
  4. Self-efficacy

For this week’s blog, I want to focus on discernment. Stay tuned for the next three topics over the next three weeks.

Discernment is the ability to judge well. Discernment happens to be one of my Spiritual Gifts, which has been granted to me to serve God for the common benefit of his people and the church.

I am imperfect and life is complex, so discernment allows me to know what I should and should not do. It allows me to be an effective coach.

I regularly think about the process of being drafted twice by the Chicago Cubs, and how God was with me every step of the way—guiding me through discernment.

Playing for the Cubs was my childhood dream. I watched them play a lot on television in the early 80s during the summer time when I would stay at my grandparent’s house in Atlanta while my parents were at work.

At school, when teachers asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would say I wanted to be a Chicago Cub.

I maintained that conviction as a freshman at Westlake High School. Community coach and advocate, the late T.J. Wilson helped make it happen. He landed me an invitation to work out for the Cubs in my high freshman year.

Subsequently, I continued to work out with the Cubs my sophomore through senior year of high school, developing a strong relationship with them.

Along the way, I received good coaching for life on and off the field from my high school coach, Dave Whitfield, and my Travel Ball coach, Derek Stafford.

It was discernment that allowed these men to believe in me. They advocated for me despite a lot of the character flaws I had as a teenager.

  • How is your judgment when it comes to choosing coaches to lead you?
  • What’s more important to you, winning games or being well coached?
  • Why is it important to have Spiritual Gifts?

Remember: Intelligence tops being smart.

For more information, visit L.E.A.D. Center for Youth today. Also, check out our Digital Magazine.

C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.

 

Why making loyalty part of who you are is important

We continue to march on in the month of March. That said, here are your marching orders for the previous weeks. We will end the month discussing the power of being respectful.

I define loyalty as doing the right thing even when it is not popular. Unfortunately, there is not a lot of loyalty when it comes to baseball—starting at the rec league level all the way to the Majors.

Loyal people are trustworthy. When someone is trustworthy, it is much easier to partner with them in an effort to accomplish goals. In my moments of not being loyal, it often is as a result of me not being confident in my ability combined with laziness.

Lack of confidence can deplete work ethic causing you to want to take the easy route.

There are some baseball teams that have a losing record, but are led by a quality coach. A “winning-is-everything” mentality can cause some people to leave a good thing to experience what seems to be a better thing, only to miss an opportunity to improve their character.

Your character is how you act.

  • How do you act when the going gets tough?
  • Do you stay and get going on the field?
  • Do you get into another situation?

I am all for making sure I am in the right place to be successful, but I have to also remind myself that everywhere that I go, there I am. So, if I am a toxic person, I will be toxic everywhere I go.

Loyalty starts with me being loyal to myself. That’s why I continue to work with a therapist to keep me from being toxic.

How about you? Are you toxic? Are you loyal to you?

As Charles F. Glassman once said, “The most effective pill we can swallow for overall health and vitality is self-honesty.”

Remember: Loyal people are trustworthy and when someone is trustworthy, it is much easier to partner with them in an effort to accomplish goals.

For more information, visit L.E.A.D. Center for Youth today. Also, check out our Digital Magazine.

C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.

Why being agile is the key to staying the course

Dreaming of the Big Leagues. That’s C.J. Stewart in the back, second from the left.

One of my favorite quotes is from Maya Angelou, who said, “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”

There are five weeks in March, so here are your weekly marching orders if you want to be successful on and off the baseball field.

This week’s focus is being agile. Being agile is being able to move quickly and easily. Consider your most recent night and/or daydream. As a child, I dreamed of playing professional baseball with the Chicago Cubs.

In 1984, I was eight years old. The Cubs won the National League East Division. I watched a lot of their games that summer while living in Atlanta. I would watch the game and then go outside to practice in the Hotlanta weather by hitting rocks with a stick and working on my pitching accuracy by throwing rocks at trees.

I had my first workout with the Cubs when I was 14 thanks to my mentor, the late T.J. Wilson. I was drafted by the Cubs at age 18 while I was a senior at Westlake High School. Instead of signing, I attended Georgia State University as a student-athlete (baseball).

Due to a lack of commitment and discipline, I was academically ineligible at the end of the season and transferred to Dekalb College where I experienced the same fate.

Everyone you go, there you are.

I was drafted again by the Cubs in 1996 and this time I signed only to play two years because of a lack of discipline and commitment. I define commitment as making and keeping a promise starting first with yourself. Discipline is doing things you need to do even when you don’t want to do them.

Because I lacked the strong character traits I needed in order to be agile early on in life, I experienced a lot of heartache and disappointments.

For the 20-plus years since my professional baseball playing days ended, I have been regarded among the top professional hitting coaches in America. That is largely due to my commitment and discipline.

Commit and discipline yourself to being agile so that you can win at the game of life.

As Redd Foxx once said, “Life is hard. It’s harder when you’re stupid.”

For more information, visit L.E.A.D. Center for Youth today. Also, check out our Digital Magazine.

C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.