Your 4-step guide to navigating rejection

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High school baseball in Georgia has officially kicked off, bringing both excitement and, for some, the harsh reality of not making the team. As the tryout dust settles, it is crucial to recognize the pain that comes with rejection. Here, we will delve into the significance of this experience, emphasizing the importance of turning disappointment into a stepping stone for personal growth.

For high school seniors, getting cut from the team can be devastating, especially if it was their last chance to make the roster. But the experience of rejection is an integral part of life, extending beyond the baseball field. It mirrors the challenges we encounter when looking for a job, a promotion or taking a relationship to the next level.

It’s about stepping up to the plate, knowing that the answer might not always be a yes.

In essence, knowledge is a combination of information and experience. While the pain of rejection is real, it offers a valuable experience that can better prepare individuals for future tryouts or life’s challenges. We must fortify the bridge before reaching it, ensuring we can cross it confidently, even if the answer is not what we hoped for.

To navigate the journey from rejection to success, I created a phased approach:

1. August-October: Assessment Phase
Trying new things to understand personal strengths and weaknesses.

2. November-January: Build Phase
Building habits and strength based on what works from the assessment phase.

3. February-April: Conversion Phase
Converting habits into skills, honing abilities that can withstand the pressures of tryouts and life.

4. May-July: Maintenance Phase
Maintaining developed skills, ensuring they stay sharp and ready for the next opportunity.

Unfortunately, many parents and players underestimate the value of proactive baseball development. The misconception that talent is the ceiling needs to shift—talent is merely the floor. Habits, formed through consistent practice and skills, honed under stress, are the keys to success. Being proactive means embracing the reality that success requires continuous effort beyond tryout season.

As we reflect on the pain of not making the cut, remember that this time next year presents another opportunity. In life, every day is an opportunity for success. The key is being ready—ready to seize the moment, to demonstrate your skills, and to overcome challenges.

Questions for Daily Success

To gear up for success every day, consider these five questions:

  1. What can I learn from today’s challenges?
  2. How can I turn setbacks into opportunities for growth?
  3. Am I building habits that contribute to my long-term success?
  4. In what ways can I apply my skills beyond the baseball field?
  5. What proactive steps can I take today to enhance my readiness for future opportunities?

The pain of not making the baseball team is a momentary setback that, with the right perspective, can pave the way for a brighter future. By embracing the phases of development, being proactive in skill-building, and understanding that success is an ongoing journey, players can emerge stronger, more resilient, and better prepared for the opportunities life presents.

For more information, visit L.E.A.D. Center for Youth today.

If you found this inspiring and thought-provoking, or if you have any questions, comments or concerns, add me on Discord and let’s go deeper.

C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.

Why finding the right mindset matters

For more than 25 years, my journey in developing elite baseball hitters has evolved beyond the mechanics of hitting. Early in my career, I focused on teaching the art of hitting, but over time, I realized the missing link—the importance of knowing how to think.

Facing a 100 mph fastball is no small feat, yet it becomes possible with the right mindset.

In simplifying a crucial concept, I introduced the Focus Box. It revolves around four key steps:

  • Failure – Acknowledge with humility when you have done it wrong
  • Adjustment – Actively make a change, doing something different
  • Success – Celebrate each time you do it right, even if just once
  • Repeat – Strive for consistency, aiming to do it right six out of 10 times

Rather than attempting to correct failures immediately, hitters must embrace adjustments, avoiding failing strategies like trying to be perfect after failure or better after success.

My coaching success lies in teaching hitters not just how to hit but how to think. Entrusting them to figure out their approach fosters a mindset that leads to success on the field and beyond.

In addition to instilling a winning mindset, I emphasize the significance of expressing gratitude. Character plays a pivotal role in becoming a Major League Baseball player and a Major League citizen. Individuals who lack the humility to say thank you with both words and actions may struggle on and off the field.

Here’s a challenge: For the next 40 days of practice and training, commit to making adjustments after making mistakes. Don’t burden yourself with perfection; focus on improvement.

Simultaneously, send a note each day to someone different, expressing gratitude for their role in shaping who you are today.

By mastering how to think and embracing gratitude, you are not just becoming an elite baseball player—you are developing the character to excel both in the game and in life.

For more information, visit L.E.A.D. Center for Youth today.

If you found this inspiring and thought-provoking, or if you have any questions, comments or concerns, add me on Discord and let’s go deeper.

C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.

The art of practicing under pressure

As we head into February, I find it fitting to engage in a more formal conversation about the evolution of my training regimen and the significance of practicing under pressure.

Navigating the Developmental Flow

My hitters journey from August to October has been one of exploration—deliberately testing various stances, loads and approaches to discern efficacy. From November to January, we conscientiously construct habits and fortify strength based on discerned success factors.

Now, as February unfolds, our focus pivots towards elevating these ingrained habits into finely honed skills.

Decoding Talent, Habits, and Skills

Talent serves as the foundation, while habits represent the refined actions executed repeatedly without conscious thought. However, the pinnacle of mastery lies in skills—performing these actions seamlessly under duress. The critical element in this transition is the intentional inclusion of pressure and stress during practice.

The Essence of Practicing Under Pressure

Conventional hitting excellence is demonstrated by hitting a baseball off a tee. Yet, the true challenge lies in consistently hitting a target 40 feet away, with the added complexity of closing one’s eyes, accomplishing this feat six out of 10 times.

The deliberate introduction of stress during training surpassing that encountered in the actual game is the catalyst for transforming proficiency into true skill.

Essential Element in This Transition: Embrace the Shift

As we approach February with a sense of formality, let us collectively embrace the challenge of practicing under pressure. This nuanced approach is not merely about refining our abilities, but fostering resilience and adeptness to perform under the heightened intensity of competitive play.

May this month mark a distinctive stride in our journey, exemplifying the refinement of talent into honed skills.

For more information, visit L.E.A.D. Center for Youth today.

If you found this inspiring and thought-provoking, or if you have any questions, comments or concerns, add me on Discord and let’s go deeper.

C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.

Crafting Opportunities: Navigating the Right Places at the Right Time in Global Sports-Based Youth Development

In the dynamic world of sports-based youth development, the art of being in the right places at the right time isn’t just about chance; it’s about strategic intent and purposeful action. For me, it involves vocalizing the spaces I aspire to be in, particularly those dedicated to empowering marginalized Black youth through sports. As an aspiring global thought leader in sports-based youth development, I am driven by the goal of recognition on a broader scale.

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Being acknowledged as a thought leader in global sports-based youth development is a goal that drives my efforts. The frustration of missing out on impactful opportunities has taught me valuable lessons, pushing me to realize that sometimes it’s about creating the “right place and right time” for myself and others.

Authenticity, passion, and conviction are my guiding principles when I do show up at these critical junctures. Moving beyond the “fake it until you make it” mantra, my wife Kelli and I have paid the price to be truly heard and felt. Passion, derived from the Latin word for suffering, reflects the transformative experiences of our childhood navigating social and emotional challenges, shaping us into impactful practitioners.

Conviction, as the catalyst for change, is the heartbeat of my presence. The belief that we must be convicted at the heart before collaborating with hands and connecting at the head underscores my approach. I strive to be felt before being heard, recognizing that authenticity often leads to impact even if it means not being invited to certain spaces.

Saying no to invitations and yes to assignments, which I believe are God ordained, further refines my focus. This discernment ensures that I invest my energy where it aligns with my purpose, leading to meaningful contributions in areas like Black youth empowerment, mentorship, educational innovation, athletics, and addressing social issues.

So, the next time you find yourself in a room discussing vital topics like Black youth, mentorship, educational outcomes, sports, crime, poverty, and racism, and I’m not present, don’t hesitate to ask, “Where is C.J. Stewart?” Because, for me, being absent from these conversations is not an option—I’m committed to shaping the narrative and making a lasting impact on a global scale.

 

Creating your ‘Steps to Significance’

In the latest session of my Hitting Lab with Jack Minutelli on Jan. 6, 2024, a profound moment unfolded early on. As we honed our skills using the Tanner Tee, Jack candidly expressed, “I’m struggling.”

To which I responded, “At least you aren’t stupid.”

This exchange brought to light the foundation of my mental model, “Steps to Significance,” which was crafted decades ago. The steps—Stupidity, Struggle, Success and Significance—lay the framework for personal and collective growth.

🥎 Stupidity – Defined as knowing the right thing to do and not doing it. To reach significance, one must navigate away from the pitfalls of stupidity.

🥎 Struggle – The process of striving toward a goal while grappling with setbacks due to ignorance or a lack of mental, emotional, and/or physical capacity.

🥎 Success – The achievement of a goal, a milestone in the journey toward significance.

🥎 Significance – Goes beyond personal success, encompassing the use of one’s achievements to serve others and uplift the community.

Jack, one of my esteemed Diamond Directors Baseball Development clients, has been under my guidance since July 2, 2021. He not only participates in my Hitting Lab, but also partners with my sports-based youth development organization, LEAD Center For Youth. This collaboration reflects his commitment to serving marginalized communities in Atlanta with excellence and dignity.

Jack has successfully traversed all four phases of my year-round programming, accumulating more than 10,000 meticulously tracked reps. The meticulous recording sets my Hitting Lab apart, ensuring progress is measured and improvements are noted.

During our Jan. 6 session, Jack shared a sentiment that resonated deeply, which expressed his desire to be successful not just for personal gain, but to serve others. He embodied the essence of significance.

A ninth-grader at The Lovett School in Atlanta, Jack embodies a rare combination of aptitude, athleticism, work ethic and character. His humility, defined as thinking of others more than oneself, mirrors the qualities I admired in Lovett greats like Brent Abernathy.

With Jack, the goal transcends individual success—it’s about grooming him for Major League Baseball stardom, aligning with the numerous teenagers I’ve helped develop. His aspiration to reach the Major Leagues is our benchmark for success, with significance defined by leveraging influence and affluence to uplift marginalized communities.

As a teenager, Jack faces the usual temptations that can derail dreams, emphasizing the importance of embracing struggle over succumbing to stupidity. He possesses the inherent qualities needed for greatness, and my role is to draw them out, ensuring he’s well-equipped to perform under stress. For Jack, the journey is more tactical than technical, and embracing struggle is the key to avoiding the pitfalls of stupidity.

For more information, visit L.E.A.D. Center for Youth today.

If you found this inspiring and thought-provoking, or if you have any questions, comments or concerns, add me on Discord and let’s go deeper.

C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.