As a coach, my role extends far beyond teaching the mechanics of the game. My calling is to be a transformative force, helping individuals move from where they are to where they could—and should—be. The word “coach” originally meant a vehicle that transported people, and I see my role similarly: guiding others along their journey, not just in sports, but in life.
To be effective in this, I must continuously examine and refine who I am, ensuring that my coaching comes from a place of conviction and compassion.
For me, this journey involves confronting my own tendencies. One of my ongoing struggles is arrogance. My confidence, often rooted in past achievements and the belief that I can replicate or surpass those successes, sometimes crosses into the realm of arrogance. This usually happens when I feel disrespected—when I perceive that my abilities or contributions aren’t valued. In those moments, my pride swells and I find myself leaning into arrogance as a defense mechanism.
But I know this is not the path to true leadership or effective coaching.
My constant prayer is for humility. Humility isn’t about diminishing my worth or abilities; it’s about recognizing the worth of others and valuing them as much as, if not more than, myself. This month, my core focus is on humility. It’s the value guiding my interactions and decisions, both on and off the field.
In September, as I guide my players through our assessment phase—a period where we evaluate and stretch ourselves to become more athletic and innovative—humility is the anchor that keeps us grounded.
The assessment phase, spanning August through October, isn’t just for my players; it’s for me as well. As they experiment with new techniques and push their limits, I, too, am reflecting on how I can better serve them. This phase reminds us that growth requires a willingness to step back, reassess, and sometimes, admit when we’re wrong or need help. It’s a humbling process, but one that is necessary for transformation.
Arrogance, while it may stem from confidence, ultimately blinds us to the needs and potential of others. Humility, on the other hand, opens our eyes to the value in every individual we coach. It allows us to be not just instructors, but mentors who guide with a sense of empathy and understanding. True coaching, after all, is about nurturing the whole person—their mind, body, and soul.
To that end, here are three questions for reflection, both for myself and for anyone in a coaching or mentoring role:
- What areas of my life do I need to assess to ensure I’m leading from a place of humility rather than arrogance? Reflect on moments where you’ve felt disrespected or undervalued. How have you reacted, and what can you learn from those reactions?
- Beyond physical skill training, what mental or emotional areas do I need to develop to become a more holistic coach? Consider what biases or preconceived notions may be influencing your coaching style. How can you challenge those to foster a more compassionate approach?
- How can I better support the growth of others by focusing on their needs rather than my own achievements or expectations? Identify one practical way you can prioritize the well-being and development of those you coach this month.
In this season of assessment, my commitment is to lead with humility. I want to inspire my players not just to improve their skills, but to grow as individuals who value others. By doing so, I believe we can create a culture where everyone, including myself, becomes a better version of who they are meant to be.
Coaching is a journey—not just for those we lead, but for ourselves. And it’s one that requires us to continually assess, adjust, and grow with a spirit of humility and grace.
Remember: Intelligence tops being smart.
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C.J. Stewart has built a reputation as one of the leading professional hitting instructors in the country. He is a former professional baseball player in the Chicago Cubs organization and has also served as an associate scout for the Cincinnati Reds. As founder and CEO of Diamond Directors Player Development, C.J. has more than 22 years of player development experience and has built an impressive list of clients, including some of the top young prospects in baseball today. If your desire is to change your game for the better, C.J. Stewart has a proven system of development and a track record of success that can work for you.
